I got an e-mail from Sexy Mom Dine Racoma about an Anonymous commenter who dropped a bomb on her blog. She — calling herself Decent Mother — called Mrs. Racoma a disgrace to Filipino women because of how she uses the phrase ‘Sexy Mom’ as her internet handle. She claimed that foreign sex predators who Google for Filipinas they can Victimize end up in The D Spot. Thus this reinforces the negative image of Filipinas as sex objects.
For those who don’t know, we in Pisay owe Tita Dine Racoma somewhat. She was one of the first people who picked up on Pisay Meets World, causing it to tip and explode in popularity. But this is not the reason why I’m jumping to Mrs. Racoma’s defense, if you can call this that. I won’t say much more though, since I think her son Ba said it pretty nicely.
All I’ll say is that Decent Mother is coming from a position which she didn’t have to defend on Sexy Mom’s blog. I see where she’s coming from, but her exposition just made her come off as judgmental and ill-informed, as she apparently doesn’t know who Sexy Mom is and what she writes about. If you browse The D Spot, it actually presents a great side of Filipina motherhood and is the complete opposite of the picture Decent Mother has in her mind. And in my mind, Mrs Racoma even redefines sexy as she is a completely techy bloglola in touch with the imaginations of today’s global Filipinos. I strain to see that as a negative image.
This reminds me of something I read in The Te of Piglet — that Eeyore Amazons (ie. feminists) tend to beat sensitivity into people and by doing that, they end up advancing the very masculine energies they intend to squash. They too — like the men they abhor — end up judgmental, rude and insensitive. By asserting the feminine they end up becoming masculine; and they call it Gender Equality. There are great feminists of course (those who celebrate their womanhood and not protest it), but Decent Mother is the perfect example of how one shouldn’t be.